An Open Letter to My Kids

To my awesome Earth Treks kids:

Life is going to throw you a lot of curveballs. The best approach to these curveballs is going to be to accept them, learn from them, and grow. Be flexible. Not everything is going to turn out the way that you plan. Some things will, but other things won't. A lot of the things you're picturing in your mind for your life right now will change. And not only is that okay, but that's awesome, and real. The absolute best part of life is experiencing what the world has to offer you, soaking it up like a sponge, and growing into the person that you're truly meant to be.

When I was your age, I didn't want kids. Then I met my husband (when I was 20) and BAM. I wanted kids. It just took the right person. When I was your age, I thought I wanted to be a wind conductor (AKA, a fancy band director). Then I went to college, changed my major to Spanish, then journalism, then Chinese. Then I went to grad school and never, ever used that degree.

Now I'm going to be a climbing coach, and at 27 I just finally started to feel like I was allowing myself to be the person I truly am. I always felt different, felt like I was trying really hard to fit in in my social group, or be better than her, or be wealthier than her, or be prettier or skinnier or more fit than her. I am just starting to allow myself to love me and my life for what it is, and to really embrace the things that make my soul happy, and not bother with others' opinions or others' lives. Let me tell you, it is a completely waste of your valuable time and energy. I hope I have used these experiences to show each of you that, even if you have to fight and flounder, you will come out on top.

Be brave.

Always, always be yourself. These are words to live by, words I have had to internalize for myself: Be true to the person you know you are on the inside, and don't spend time trying to be someone you're not to please someone else. Don't pursue a high-powered career if it doesn't feel true to who you are, or if it doesn't make you happy. Don't wear makeup if you hate the expense or the effort, and don't buy fancy clothes just to fit in. Don't compete with others. Don't try to "keep up with the Jones'". Material goods and money are shallow, and temporary, and will not fulfill your soul.

Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life. Don't be trapped by dogma, which is living with the result of other people's thinking. Don't let the noise of others' opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.
Steve Jobs 

Thank each of you for your sweet friendships, for teaching me that maybe kids aren't so bad after all, and that I can probably be a parent without completely screwing up my own children. You all have taught me an infinite amount about my own abilities as a climber, as a coach, and as a mentor. Your presence in my life has been invaluable, and I am privileged to call you each my friends and to witness you growing into the wonderful adults you're all going to be. 

Here's to the crazy ones, the misfits, the rebels, the troublemakers, the round pegs in square holes, the ones who see things differently. They're not fond of rules. You can quote them, disagree with them, glorify or vilify them, but the only thing you can't do is ignore them, because they change things. They push the human race forward, and while some may see them as the crazy ones, we see genius, because the ones who are crazy enough to think that they can change the world, are the ones who do.
Steve Jobs

I love each of you to pieces, and I will see you soon. <3


  1. I love this post! It's so great of you to be open about things that you've experienced! Thanks for sharing :-)

    1. Thanks for reading! One of my goals for the blog is to be as open, honest and raw as possible. I think so many people have similar experiences, but just don't realize it because most people hide their struggles!


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